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You and I

HER

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Jakarta, January 11, 2020. It was a cloudy evening. She wore a light yellow-ish dress, with a nice navy blue handbag on her side, and a cup of hot matcha latte on her table. It was the day when I met her for the first time. We talked about my book ‘Why we sleep’ by Matthew Walker.
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Bandung, July 3, 2020. It was a warm day, with a typical cool breeze of Bandung. She was walking and smiling at me. She wore a beautiful snowy long white dress and white mask for protection.
I know she was really exhausted & restless. But her smile was the best smile I’ve ever seen in my life. We married that day.
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Thank you for talking with me in that small coffee shop, and thank you for finding me in this vast universe,
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Love you always @sitifristekawati


That was the story I post in my Instagram (@baktistr) some days ago. Well, I just want to repost it here for my personal documentation.

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Books

Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life

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Books

Why Nations Fail: The Origins of Power, Prosperity, and Poverty

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Books

Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind

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Obliviate !

2019 was a blast!, 2020 is coming!

2019 is gonna be over soon, I just wanna say thank you for everyone whose their lifeline crossed with mine this year, and years before.

To be honest, 2019 is not much different with many years before, and if I put rank on the last 10 years, based on my personal likeness, I think 2019 is near on the bottom of the list if not by chance I got to go to Mecca to do umrah. Yes, it helps me a lot to go through this year!.

Looking back at my college days, I think my bad habit is still the same even today. These made everything I wanted can’t be achieved 100%. There are some kind of barrier around me, Never go extra miles to do the job/study nor try to socialize more is indeed my biggest regret after all this time. I know it was shit but it’s very hard for me to crack these invisible shells

Well, despite of those things i mentioned abiove, there are lot of things that I really want to achieve next year, mostly trivial things like tracking all of my money, start doing exercises, reading more books, and doing some research and online course ~ I do have a plan to get some certification on it !. I won’t put any details yet, but maybe I will post it on this blog later.

Ah, one thing that i discovered this year is a technique callled “Pomodoro”, it’s some kind of time management technique. It really helps me to doing almost everything !!

Well, whatever, goodbye 2019 and welcome 2020, be nice to me !!

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November 2019 Resolutions

I guess, I’ll starting to make this post series. If you read my last post, which is on April 2019, You will notice that I’m not in a good condition mentally. I tried to solve the problem by stating and visioning my long term goals. One of them is getting the OSCP certification, which is up until now, I haven’t tried to achieving it. The problem is not that I’m not motivated enough to do all the necessary activity to achieve those goals, but I just don’t know whether that was what i really wanted back then (even now) and don’t feel rewarding. that’s why I stuck.

To solve that, I started to questioning myself a bit more, deeper, and even asked for helps. Sometimes, I feel utterly useless, desperate, and even doubting my existence in this world. Plus, I’m not a good social person, you can imagine how sucks that period was. Well, I’m not going to tell it more. The point is, I need really to plan my day to day action, so I can change my habit, !! I realize what makes me really happy is by achieving something what I want, it doesn’t have to be something big. Just a simple recognition, congratulation, or even treat for myself after I finish some simple and easy task/course. Because, for me, those things is soo much satisfying. Just do the simple thing first and consistently!

Here is my plans for this month :

  1. Wake up early, do some exercise before going to office.
  2. Complete 1 book, ( I will complete Sapiens by Harari this month, and write it on goodread/this blog so I will feel rewarded )
  3. Cook my own meal.
  4. Complete basic android and data science course, get the certificate, and post it on linkedin (i’m not aiming big, im just taking the simplest courses this month).
  5. Exercise after office, my plan is just to run on treadmill before going home from office.

That’s it. !!

ps. motivations indeed come from ourselves. We define our own motivation. We define our own path. Sure, you need a trully good environtment as the catalyst, but in the end it’s our own life. There will always doubts, even from ourlselves, just compensate and befriend with it, nothing bad will come from it !, I really mean it, let’s keep moving wherever we want to go !!

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Obliviate !

Di Persimpangan Jalan

Beberapa hari yang lalu, saya mengikuti sebuah talkshow / Seminar Teknologi, yang pembicaranya merupakan para petinggi korporat maupun startup yang ada di Indonesia. Salah satu hal penting yang saya dapat saat itu adalah penjelasan tentang bagaimana kehidupan seorang googlers dari Head Country Google Indonesia, Pak Henky Prihatna.

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What is your Dream Job ?

Up until now, I always think that working is not a fun thing to do. I always see that most people work for money 100% and there are no other reasons they are willing to ‘work’. nah.. Maybe I just haven’t found my dream job yet.

Anyway, I found an interesting article here about this so-called dream job.  Dream Job is not about a job that has ‘tons of money’ and ‘easy’ tasks.

 

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Where will we go now?

 


The things we need to look for in a dream job

  1. Work you’re good at,
  2. Work that helps others,
  3. Engaging work that lets you enter a state of flow (freedom, variety, clear tasks, feedback),
  4. Supportive colleagues,
  5. No major negatives like long hours or unfair pay, and
  6. A job that fits your personal life.

credits: https://80000hours.org/career-guide/job-satisfaction/

Have you found your own dream job?
or rather consider to makes your current job a dream job?

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5 Puisi favorit dari buku Sea of Stangers

Sea of Strangers merupakan karya terbaru dari penulis asal Australia beranama Lang Leav. Jujur, saat saya membelinya di sebuah toko ketika transit di bandara, saya tidak pernah sekalipun membaca buku model ‘begini’ sebelumnya, dan ekspektasi saya akan buku ini tidaklah besar. Alasan saya membeli pun cuku sederhana. Cuma karena, ‘wah, sampulnya menarik, sepertinya saya pernah lihat di Twitter

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Sampul buku yang terlihat sedih dan menenangkan disaat yang bersamaan

Diluar dugaan saya, tak perlu membaca hingga 10 halaman, saya sudah yakin bahwa ini adalah salah satu buku terbaik yang saya baca di kuartal awal 2018 ini. Buku ini merupakan buku yang terdiri atas 200 puisi pendek yang bercerita tentang romansa maupun insight dari kehidupan sehari hari.

Kalau berbicara mengenai buku yang bagus, pada dasarnya banyak orang menyukai suatu buku, selain karena ceritanya yang bagus (dalam kasus novel), juga dikarenakan kesesuaian-related, terhadap pembaca. Bagi saya, puisi-puisi dalam buku ini sangatlah relatable dengan kehidupan saya, hehe

Berikut adalah 5 puisi terbaik menurut saya.

  1. Ad Infinitum.

    The solution,
    is neither
    further or nearer

    Like the mirror,
    of a mirror
    of a mirror

    Yang saya dapat dari puisi Ad Infinitum ini ialah, solusi dari suatu permasalahan adalah diri kita sendiri, bukan orang lain, ataupun hal lainnya !, kompromilah, lawanlah, dan pahamilah diri sendiri, puisi 6 baris ini sangat dalam maknanya !!

  2. Strength.

    Don’t let them tell you that your pain should be confined to the past, that it  bears no relevance to the present. Your pain is part of who you are.

    They don’t know how strong that makes you

    Setiap orang yang kita kenal, bagaimanapun juga memiliki masa lalu, yang menjadikan mereka seperti sekarang, kadang kita hanya melihatnya dengan 1 sudut pandang saja, yakni keadaan mereka saat ini, dan langsung judgmental terhadapnya :(.

  3. Smoke & Mirrors.

    Why do you hesitate ?

    Why would you let that tempt you ?

    And if you don’t make her yours now, someone else will .

    Puisi yang menuliskan bahwa kita harus menjadi orang yang sanggup mengambil keputusan. Puisi ini sebenarnya lebih panjang dari tiga baris tersebut, namun saya hanya mengutip ‘intinya’ saja. Be decisive now, don’t be regret later !

  4. Closer to Me.

    It was long ago, yet you feel closer to me than yesterday, more hopeful than tomorrow — You are as far and near as memory,
    As distant as the sun — as close as its light on my skin.

    Puisi yang menggambarkan bahwa tidak selamanya jarak dan waktu dapat menghilangkan luka, ataupun rasa senang, yap, tidak selamanya hal-hal yang romantis itu indah dan menyenangkan, kadang kita harus menerima rasa manis dan pahit bersamaan, untuk bisa tumbuh menjadi pribadi yang lebih baik, bittersweet !

  5. Meant to be.

    If they were meant to be in your life, nothing could ever make them leave. If they weren’t, nothing in the world could make them stay.

    Berbicara tentang takdir, mungkin kita membayangkan bahwa tidak ada hal yang bisa melawannya. Mungkin sekilas puisi tersebut menjelaskan hal ini, konvergensi. Namun yang saya lihat dari puisi ini adalah, semua hal yang SUDAH kita usahakan, SUDAH kita perjuangkan, bukan berarti tidak ada gunanya.  Apabila kita kita melihat kebelakang, bukankah SEMUA itu ‘hasil’ atau akibat dari SEMUA tindakan dan perjuangan kita?. Bukankah kita tidak bisa melihat masa depan? maka dari itu, ambilah pelajaran dari hal-hal dibelakang kita.

 

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Tak perlu jadi penulis. Jadilah orang yang menulis

Banyak sekali hal yang terbesit di kepalaku, dan sebenarnya sudah menjadi draft tulisan yang akan ku publish di blog ini. Namun semuanya berasa setengah matang, dan alih alih diselesaikan, bahkan saat ini saya selalu heran dan bingung memandang draft tulisan yang menumpuk (beberapa hanya berisi judul saja).